With time, do we take people less personally?

We often build our perceptions about people with time and the situations that we have been through, with them. Our seriousness of considering their opinions and thoughts is likely to depend on how well we have understood them, as a person .

However, I am of the belief that, taking their viewpoints personally, solely depends on two factors:

If the person is known, close and trustworthy, what he says would matter to me to a really great extent. If the words are harsh, it would probably hurt, even. Here, his intentions are known, the flow of his thought process is known. So, it’s known that he just wants the best for me and he may probably be right as well, on that front . If I would find his words convincing enough, I would definitely give it a thought. I would try focusing on what can be done to fix the issue, because I care of what he thinks of me, thinks for me and I value his opinions.

But if the same thing is pointed out to me, by someone who is less closer, it wouldn’t matter. I wouldn’t let their opinion about me ,affect me or change me in anyway. I would stand firm. I would maybe just smile and acknowledge the fact that I have made a note of what they have just said. Because, I wouldn’t want to argue with them as to why I do not want to implement their thoughts. Ruining my peace of mind for someone else’s immature words/actions would not be worth it.

Most often than not,its how we let it affect us. Make sure you don’t let outsiders’ thoughts, opinions or actions offend you or hurt you, in anyway. Treat everyone the way you want to be treated, sweet and patient. Some realize their fault after a bit and come back to apologize, while some may not. Experiences grow us and many are still immature when it comes to understanding other’s feelings and emotions. Hence, the hurt they give us, may never be intentional.

As they say “Forgive, Forget and Move on”. It’s for our inner peace. 🙂