My husband turned to ask me if we should invite everyone over for an early dinner. I wanted to spend as much time as possible with everyone, especially those who lived far away, so the answer was obvious even though this would mean throwing an impromptu dinner party for thirty people. 

“The answer was obvious even though this would mean throwing an impromptu dinner party for thirty people.”

We let those we could know in person to come by around four, and asked them to text the ones we hadn’t been able to touch base with to spread the word. On the way home we swung by the store, grabbed a couple of bags of pasta, one gluten free alternative, and a whole bunch of vegan sausages. We went home to do what we could to prepare.

We pulled out any spare chair or stool we had, put two huge pots of water on to boil, dumped two or three jars of sauce into their respective pots once the noodles had cooked and set out several large baguettes next to the butter dish. Thoughtful guests who had a chance to run by the store brought bottles of wine. When they arrived, we instructed everyone to grab a plate and let people know where they could find the glassware so they could help themselves.

Anyone who was able-bodied and under the age of fifty sat on the floor, leaving the seats for the likes of my grandma’s generation, which included my 88-year-old grandfather, two of my great uncles, and two great aunts. My grandmother was the first of their generation to go, and this was the first time my generation would grieve someone we’d grown up making memories with. I was very aware that this was the beginning and the end of an era.

“I was very aware that this was the beginning and the end of an era.”

One of the things I remember most about that night was my mother and one of her first cousins sitting on the rug, legs folded to their chests and plates atop their knees, giggling and clinking their glasses. I couldn’t help but think this was the best possible way to close out the day of my grandma’s funeral — a woman who had gathered all of us so many times before and had hosted countless dinner parties over the decades.

Another especially meaningful gathering that comes to mind is my husband’s 34th birthday. To mitigate our guests’ wide array of dietary needs, we invited each group or pair to bring a dish of their choosing. That night we ate vegan tacos, enjoyed an artfully curated charcuterie plate, and a traditional Middle Eastern dish called makloubeh that is cooked in a huge pot and served only after a climactic move that requires the server to flip the enormous dish upside down and hope that the rice doesn’t spill everywhere (the flip was a success — we have a video!).

After we ate, we headed out back to sit around the fire pit, as usual. Everyone had seconds and thirds, smoked hookah, and laughed into the night. The meal was a rich mish-mash, the evening a hodgepodge — just like us.

“The meal was a rich mish-mash, the evening a hodgepodge — just like us.”

Perhaps my favorite, though, was the time we hosted forty people at our house for Thanksgiving. We still lived in that same two-bed, one-bath house that was built in 1920 — arguably too small to host a large group of people. Modern amenities were few and far between. But she had character for days, and we had a really long driveway that inspired us to set up the longest table we possibly could and invite everyone who could come.

And they did. We filled the table to the brim. We rented linens and chairs and dishes, and everyone brought an entree or a side. One of our dearest friends filled vases with foraged blooms from the neighborhood and made personalized name cards. Another brought his turntable and made it his job to keep the music going. 

The people who came spanned four generations, several different family trees, and folks drove in from the desert and up from San Diego. I remember both ends of the long table were reserved for our two guests in wheelchairs. I remember missing my grandpa, who had died just a few months before, and really wishing he was there. I remember my daughter, not even a year old, wearing a red corduroy jumper, the youngest at the table. 

The candles burned all the way down, surrounded by half-empty glasses, wine stains, and the general mess of a well-used tablescape after everyone has finished their meal. Most people stayed well into the night, and I remember at one point capturing a video through the back window of a handful of men gathered around the fire, laughing. I knew this was it — the thing we’re all always chasing. Connection and community.

“I knew this was it — the thing we’re all always chasing. Connection and community.”

We woke up the next morning to the leftover mess in the backyard. Our friends who had spent the night helped us clean up. Our daughter played while we did so. It occurred to me that this was her very first Thanksgiving, and what a Thanksgiving it was.

To be honest, our great big Thanksgiving dinner wasn’t exactly within our budget. And often hosting more people than we planned isn’t. I’m certainly not advocating for financial irresponsibility, but my point is we’ve never once regretted the splurge.

Now it’s old hat, second nature for us to invite our friends and their kids for a post-nap run around the backyard and casual dinner parties. If capacity allows (emotional, physical, or otherwise), we pivot to add one more to the table, one more to the calendar, one more evening to our rolodex of priceless memories with the ones we love.

Kate Arceo is the Community Manager at The Good Trade. She has a Bachelor of Science from Evangel University and has over 5 years of experience reviewing sustainable home and lifestyle brands, as well as organic kids’ apparel and nontoxic cosmetics. When she’s not hosting dinner parties with her husband at their home in Southern California, you can find her sipping a latte at their local coffee house or shopping for strawberries with her kids at the farmers market. Say hi on Instagram!

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“There’s nothing quite like a thoughtfully handwritten note sent with love.”

I have always been a purveyor of greeting cards. Any time we stumble upon a paper shop or a boutique with curated goods, you can find me surveying the greeting card section and collecting a stack to take to the register. I love to envision the recipient of each one — this one for a dear friend’s birthday, that one for an upcoming wedding, this one to keep on file next time a friend announces they’re expecting. One of my favorite greeting cards I’ve ever received was from a friend in honor of our son’s birth. It had a cartoon illustration of a baby’s bottom that said, “Thank goodness for little butts.” Thank goodness, indeed. (If you’re in the mood for more quips and aphorisms, check out our list of 99 positive daily affirmations or our favorite 99 unique compliments!)

Whether you’re sending a card to commemorate a special occasion, expressing your condolences, or sending a note just because, here are 99 things to write in a greeting card for every occasion.

Birthday

1. Celebrating you is a joy and so easy to do. Happy Birthday!

2. It’s a gift to be in your orbit. Here’s to another trip around the sun!

3. Your presence makes the world a better place.

4. You are worth celebrating on your birthday and always.

5. Happiest birthday wishes to someone I cherish so much. 

“You are worth celebrating on your birthday and always.”

6. Happy birthday to someone who gets more wonderful with each passing year. Here’s to many, many more!

7. It is so lovely to bear witness to your life.

8. Your life inspires me to live my own with intention and joy. Wishing you both of these things and much more in the year to come!

9. Today and every day, I hope you’ll take a moment to reflect on your inherent worth. You are worthy simply because you were born.

10. I hope your day is filled with all of your favorite things. Happy birthday to you!

Sympathy

11. My heart aches with you as you move through this loss.

12. Wishing you comfort, warmth, and support as you navigate this difficult time.

13. Sharing in your sadness and holding space for whatever feelings arise. Please call anytime.

14. It’s difficult to express the depth of my grief. Sending you the most heartfelt condolences.

15. Please know I’m here for you as the waves of grief unfold. Call me anytime.

“My heart aches with you as you move through this loss.”

16. There is no wrong way to grieve. I hope you’ll allow yourself to do so however you need to.

17. I want to be here for you in any way that I can. I’ll check in soon about what might be most helpful at this time, whether it’s a meal, a cleaning service, or just some company.

18. Wishing you space to grieve and for healing in the days to come.

19. I’m so sorry for your sorrow. I’m thinking of you every day.

20. Remembering your loved one with fondness and gratitude. Sending you my deepest condolences and love. 

Wedding

21. You complement each other so well. Cheers to the happy couple!

22. This day marks the continuation of the love you’ve built and the beginning of the rest of your lives. Congratulations!

23. In all the days to come, know I’m always in your corner.

“This day marks the continuation of the love you’ve built and the beginning of the rest of your lives. Congratulations!”

24. I love seeing you happy. All my love, always!

25. Your love is inspiring. Here’s to many, many years!

26. I’m so glad you’ve found and kept each other.

27. The world needs more love – so be sure to make a lot of it!

28. Wishing you many years of joy, intimacy, and steady partnership.

29. To love is an act of bravery. Thank you for sharing yours with us.

30. What a gift it is to witness your love.

Baby Shower

31. Wishing you all the best in babyhood and beyond.

32. I already love your little one, and can’t wait to meet them!

33. It is an honor to be part of this journey with you.

34. In the days ahead, remember – you are supported, loved, and held. Call on us anytime you need something.

“I already love your little one, and can’t wait to meet them!”

35. As you nurture your new baby, your community is here to nurture you. I’ll check in to see what might be most helpful during the transition into this new season. 

36. What lucky parents you are to welcome your precious little one. What a lucky little one to have such wonderful parents!

37. Congratulations on the arrival of your little one! Sending you warmth, ease, and support as you enter this new season.

38. Here’s to many happy family memories in the years to come.

39. Celebrating with you as you welcome your new little one into your family. 

Holiday

40. Wishing you tidings of comfort, joy, and peace this holiday season.

41. ‘Tis the season for quality time, warm drinks, and abundant laughter. Cheers!

42. May your holidays be filled with whatever you’re longing for, whether that’s peace, rest, excitement, joy, magic – or all of the above. 

43. May you feel the thrill of hope and find many reasons to rejoice this season.

44. Each new year is a chance to begin again, continue the beauty we’ve been creating, or some version of both.

“May you feel the thrill of hope and find many reasons to rejoice this season.”

45. Cheers to new beginnings and the fresh hope they bring. Happy New Year!

46. Wishing you health, joy, and abundance in the new year.

47. Whether you need a chance to begin again, to continue the beauty you’ve been creating, or something in between, wishing you a happy new year.

48. Wishing you a year filled with courage, hope and happiness. May we remember that anything is possible.

49. Wishing you a season of warmth and totally untangled Christmas lights.

Graduation

50. Congrats, grad! Your future awaits.

51. We are cheering you on as you enter this new chapter. 

52. Remember that this finish line is just the beginning of everything to come.

53. Congrats, grad! A whole wide world awaits. I can’t wait to watch who you bloom.

54. You get to choose how you want to move into the world, and there is no wrong way to do so.5

55. The world needs exactly who you are. I can’t wait to see what you do and who you become.

56. Congratulations, grad! I hope you’ll follow your heart, your intuition, and your passions toward creating a life you love.

57. This life is yours for the taking. Pursue it with passion, integrity, and wonder.

58. Looking forward to watching you cultivate a life that is uniquely you.

59. In all you do moving forward – know you are capable, worthy, and loved.

Retirement

60. I hope you’ll take some time to mark this moment and reflect on such a meaningful milestone.

61. Wishing you ease and contentment in the days to come. Cheers to the next chapter!

62. Congratulations on a hard-earned and well-deserved retirement.

63. Wishing you many days ahead filled with time spent doing the things you love.

64. Wishing you a retirement filled with simple pleasures, quality time with the ones you love, and priceless cherished memories.

“Wishing you many days ahead filled with time spent doing the things you love.”

65. A job well done and a retirement well earned. Congratulations, and enjoy!

66. May your retirement be a time of relaxation, exploration, and all the joys you’ve longed for.

67. As you close this chapter, may the pages of your retirement be filled with adventures, laughter, and cherished memories.

68. Your dedication and commitment have left an unforgettable mark. May your retirement be as fulfilling as your career!

69. Here’s to endless mornings without alarms and endless afternoons without meetings. Enjoy your well-deserved retirement!

Valentine’s Day

70. I’m so glad it’s you.

71. Happy Valentine’s Day to the only one I want to celebrate this day with.

72. Our love teaches me continually, comforts me consistently, and grows deeper daily.

73. After all this time, it’s still you.

74. My affection for you is vast, my admiration is deep, and my love for you is endless.

75. I’m having the best time with you, Valentine.

“Our love teaches me continually, comforts me consistently, and grows deeper daily.”

76. There’s nowhere I feel more at home than with you.

77. I can’t think of a better way to spend my days than to spend them loving you.

78. Cherishing you is the gift of a lifetime. Happy Valentine’s Day, my love. 

79. Call me a hopeless romantic, but consider inserting a few lines of poetry. Here is one of my personal favorites: “I want/ to do with you what spring does with the cherry trees.” -Pablo Neruda, “Twenty Love Poems and a Song of Despair.”

80. You could also write a few lines of your own poetry, whether original or a play on one of the tried-and-true templates. Here’s an example: Roses are red, violets are blue. I don’t want anyone but you.

Mother’s Day

81. Thank you for all of the ways you’ve nurtured and cared for me all my life.

82. Happy Mother’s Day to the woman who has shaped me, cared for me, and inspired me. 

83. Thank you for your continual presence, support, and love. I’m grateful this life made you my mama.

84. On this Mother’s Day and always, I celebrate you with all my heart and all my love.

85. Your love is one of my life’s greatest treasures, Mom.

“Thank you for your continual presence, support, and love. I’m grateful this life made you my mama.”

86. Regardless of space and time, I always feel your love. Happy Mother’s Day, Mom.

87. Mom, I hold your every act of love in my heart.

88. Whenever I don’t know what to do, I’m so glad I know I can call you. Happy Mother’s Day, Mom.

89. I’m grateful that your love and wisdom have guided me all my life. 

90. So glad I got it from my mama, and that my mama is you! Happy Mother’s Day.

Father’s Day

91. A father is one who leads, nurtures, and protects. I’m grateful you’ve done all of those things for me, and more. Happy Father’s Day, Dad!

92. I’m grateful to have a dad who has also become my friend.

93. The ways you’ve nurtured and sacrificed for me over the years has not gone unnoticed. Happy Father’s Day, Dad.

94. I’m grateful for your love.

“I’m grateful for your love.”

95. You’re one of a kind, Dad. Wishing you a Happy Father’s Day!

96. Where would I be without you in my life? I’m glad I’ll never know.

97. Dad, thank you for your continual presence, strength, and guidance. Happy Father’s Day.

98. Your love is the foundation on which I’ve built my life, and I’m forever grateful.

99. Dad, your quiet strength and unwavering support have given me comfort and courage when I needed it most. Thanks for always being there for me.

Kate Arceo is the Community Manager at The Good Trade. She has a Bachelor of Science from Evangel University and has over 5 years of experience reviewing sustainable home and lifestyle brands, as well as organic kids’ apparel and nontoxic cosmetics. When she’s not hosting dinner parties with her husband at their home in Southern California, you can find her sipping a latte at their local coffee house or shopping for strawberries with her kids at the farmers market. Say hi on Instagram!

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“I recall the cool, crisp air rising off the ice rink at Rockefeller Center and brushing my face while I watched the skaters.”

Fast-forward to grown-up life, with its accompanying pressure to make the holidays memorable. Whether it’s finding the perfect gift, making the best cookie ever, or decorating to the max, we strive to create Hallmark moments rather than savoring our actual experiences with mindful attention and intention. We may spend so much time imagining how we’d like things to go in our heads that we miss what’s going on in our lives — for example, baking cookies with your son or daughter and focusing on how they turn out, but not the magic of the moment with your child. Or, spending days preparing a meal for your holiday guests only to discover that by the time they show up, you feel depleted and don’t enjoy the meal.

As a psychologist, I’ve heard from so many clients about the difficulties this season brings up. As we head into the season, I wanted to share some thoughts on how to remain present, even as the holidays shake up our routines and stir up feelings and stress. 😌

What is presence?

For me, being present means being fully engaged in the moment, losing track of time. Some people call it “being in the zone.” When was the last time you were in the zone? What did it feel like? What were you doing? For most of us, it’s very gratifying and fulfilling to be in the zone, although it’s often challenging. So, if presence feels good, why don’t we do it more?

“For most of us, it’s very gratifying and fulfilling to be in the zone, although it’s often challenging.”

Simply put, because the environment we’re living in is designed to distract us. The average person is exposed to hundreds or even thousands of commercial messages every single day. Whether we’re on our laptop, desktop, phone, or iPad, everyone is trying to capture our attention. When was the last time you were in your car and got to your destination without noticing your route along the way? Or someone was speaking with you, and you didn’t hear a word they said? Or you ate your meal, and you didn’t taste it? One of these probably happened to you once or more in the past week.

Despite practicing mindfulness for the past 15 years, I still experience many “mindless” moments when my life is happening. That’s because it takes practice.

Being present is possible but not easy

Even with an environment filled with distractions, we can learn to practice presence. The more we put our attention and intention on the moment we’re in, the stronger our “presence muscle” becomes. Since the experience of being present to a positive or neutral event is accompanied by feeling good, this will make our behavior of “being present” more likely to occur again. Over time, this becomes more automatic and can develop into a habit that offsets our tendency to be distracted both externally with the messages that bombard us daily, and internally with our own thoughts and feelings.

“The more we put our attention and intention on the moment we’re in, the stronger our ‘presence muscle’ becomes.”

For the last 4 years, I’ve been participating in a 5K walk/run in Springfield, Missouri on the first Saturday in November. Usually, I’m preoccupied with thoughts and fears about whether or not I’ll complete the course, but this year I focused on noticing and savoring my experience. Let me describe exactly what I mean. Instead of worrying about how far I had to go, I paid attention to the sights, sounds, and other sensations around me.

It was a crisp fall morning with the sun just coming up as we started. I could hear the other participants happily chattering and the sound of athletic shoes striking the pavement. Bystanders cheered and rang cowbells when we came by. I saw the changing fall colors on the trees and the rustling of their leaves. The sky was clear, and the temperature gradually warmed the further we walked and ran. I could feel my cool, steady breath moving in and out of my body. Tuning into my senses helped me relax and enjoy my experience, rather than focusing on and worrying about how far I had to go. 🏃‍♀️

Body-centered practices to rediscover and reclaim presence

Over the years, I’ve developed a mindful stress reduction program that I call “Stress Less Live Better.” I start with three body-centered practices: In Simply Breathe, the object of attention is your breath, and the intention is letting go. In Soothe Your Body, the object of attention is your body, and the intention is to pay attention. In Savor the Moment, the object of attention is your five senses, and the intention is savoring your experience.

“When your attention starts to stray, and it probably will, just gently and lovingly bring it back to your breath without judgment or self-criticism, as it flows in and out.”

My program starts with these three body-centered skillsets because it’s easier to get out of our heads when we’re focusing on our bodies. We start with breath since it occurs effortlessly without us having to do anything. I tell my students: When your attention starts to stray, and it probably will, just gently and lovingly bring it back to your breath without judgment or self-criticism, as it flows in and out.

Pairing this with attention to what I see as the four pillars of health — sleep and rest, exercise, nutrition, and stress reduction — will ensure you have a good baseline to begin.

How to be mindful during the holiday season

Now that your body is starting to settle down, it’s time to put your rational mind back in the driver’s seat. Research indicates that we spend 80% of our time worrying about the future, 20% regretting the past, leaving little time in the present moment. During a stressful time like the holidays, we’re even more prone to drift from our present.

I frequently collaborate with Cristle Griwach, M.A., M.F.A., an experienced health educator, advocate, and health literacy expert. Together, we developed these six tips to quiet your emotional brain and re-engage your rational mind during this time of year:

1. In any season, gratitude is a helpful mindfulness practice. At the end of each day, think of three things you are grateful for. You could start a holiday gratitude journal or just make a mental list at the end of the day. The benefit of writing it down is that the list will help you preserve the memories. I find that looking back at what I was grateful for last week makes me happy all over again.

2. Over the years, I have learned to keep the holidays simpler, and I like it. Instead of too much holiday decor and too many presents, I decorate minimally, with intention, and limit presents to a few. My family enjoys this simpler routine that more closely mirrors the calmness and serenity of winter. We would rather fill up on experiences than things we probably don’t really need.

There is a wonderful Victorian tradition for filling children’s stockings that works as a gift guide for adults, too.

“Something to eat;
Something to read;
Something to play with; and,
Something they need.”

3. This is a great time of year to contact old friends. You could even mail out actual holiday cards, or digital cards, email, or make a phone call. Connect with friends and family and share memories together.

4.  Engage in creative activities that you enjoy. Some people like to decorate cookies or wrap elaborate packages. If that’s not for you, try coloring, holiday decorating, or journaling. Whatever you enjoy. Throughout the year, I save clever craft ideas and then select a few to try during the holidays. It can be something as simple as a new way to wrap a package.

5. Make time to appreciate how much you have learned and grown this year. Look back on challenges you have met, skills you have learned, and obstacles you overcame. I bet that if you think about it, you will be pretty impressed with yourself. So, hats off to you!

6. Finally, treat yourself by doing something special just for you. It could be as simple as listening to your favorite holiday song, getting a manicure, or phoning a friend. Whatever you do, make it about you. By prioritizing self-care, we remind ourselves that we deserve to enjoy the holidays just as much as anyone else.

Once you’ve practiced being “present” during the holidays, keep this tradition alive throughout the year. Celebrate yourself and your life unfolding moment to moment. Not only is our presence a gift to our loved ones, but it is also a present to ourselves. Enjoy!

Dr. Diane Sanford is a women’s health psychologist specializing in empowering women through every stage of life. For 35+ years she has prescribed self-care and mindfulness to guide her clients towards inner peace and self-awareness. To achieve clarity and balance in her own life, her self-care and mindfulness practices include yoga, meditation, walks in nature, reading, cooking, spending time with loved ones, and playing with her 20-month-old grandson, Cameron. You can visit her at drdianesanford.com.

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Instead of worrying about what to say next, I can turn to the list below, use a conversation deck, or even create my own prompts. All it takes is a little curiosity and a willingness to dive in—because every great connection begins with a meaningful conversation!

Have you had a good conversation lately? Jump to the comments below and share your favorite topics!

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Conversation topics for anyone

1. Which scent do you find the most soothing?

2. What is a language you love to listen to even if you don’t speak or understand it?

3. Oceans or mountains? Why?

4. Describe the most captivating painting or artwork you’ve ever seen.

5. Do you remember the first novel you ever read? If so, what was it?

6. What is your favorite thing about your personality?

“What is your favorite thing about your personality?”

7. If you could have a fictional superhero for a best friend, who would it be?

8. What color would you choose to describe yourself?

9. What is something you have accomplished as an adult that your younger self would be proud of?

10. Is there a place in the world that you feel most represents who you are?

11. Where is one place you’d love to travel to again?

12. If your pet could talk, what would their voice sound like? What would they say about you?

13. What does your name mean?

14. What tasks make you feel like your best self?

15. What’s your Enneagram number and how does it influence your self-care practices?

16. Where do you feel most centered and happy?

17. What’s your favorite comfort food?

18. What do you wear when you’re feeling your very best, and why?

19. What is the best meal you’ve ever had, and what’s the best meal you’ve ever cooked for yourself?

20. What do you love most about your home?

“What do you love most about your home?”

21. What’s a yearbook-style superlative you’d give to your high school self? What’s one for your current self?

22. What gives you goosebumps?

23. Do you know your astrology sign? How about your birth chart?

24. How are you consciously practicing sustainability?

25. Do you have any tattoos?

26. Scuba diving or skydiving?

27. What are you most grateful for in this season of life?

28. Do you give back or volunteer with any organizations?

29. What’s your love language?

Conversation topics for friends

30. What do you look for and need in your friendships?

31. How do you feel that you best offer love and support to your friends?

32. Tell me about your childhood best friend.

33. When do you feel most authentically yourself?

34. What’s one form of self-expression you’ve been too hesitant to explore?

“What’s one habit you want to get rid of and one habit you want to keep?”

35. What’s one habit you want to get rid of and one habit you want to keep?

36. What was your first experience with sex like?

37. If you were to perform a duet with a famous musician, who would it be and why?

38. Do you have any recurring dreams? If so, what do you think they are trying to tell you?

39. Who do you most admire, and how has that impacted the way you live your life?

Conversation topics for your parents

40. What’s one thing you’d tell yourself at my age? What’s one thing your younger self would tell you?

41. What do you wish you’d known before having kids?

42. What was the first big purchase you made as an adult?

43. How did you know when you fell in love?

“What was the first big purchase you made as an adult?”

44. Have you kept any memorabilia from your childhood?

45. What do you miss most about being a child? A teenager? My age?

46. What about the current world would be most surprising to your younger self?

47. If you could travel back in time, which part of your life would you go back to?

48. Who did you vote for in past elections? Why?

49. What are some of your favorite memories about your parents?

Conversation topics for kids

50. If you could have one cartoon character be your real-life best friend, who would you choose and why?

51. What’s your earliest memory?

52. What do you love most about school?

53. Who are your best friends?

“What does a perfect day with the family look like?”

54. What is your favorite season?

55. What superpower do you wish you had?

56. What do you want to be when you grow up?

57. If you could have any animal as a pet, which would you choose and why?

58. What does a perfect day with the family look like?

59. What do you love most about our house?

Conversation topics for date night

60. How do you feel best supported in hard times?

61. What does “alone time” look like for you?

62. Dogs or cats (or rabbits)?

63. What do you wish people better understood about you?

“What does ‘alone time’ look like for you?”

64. What lessons from your childhood have most impacted your worldview?

65. If we could live in another country for a year (no strings attached), where would we go?

66. What do you love most about our relationship? What do you wish to work on?

67. What small joys bring light to your day?

68. How can we better practice sustainability as a couple?

69. What’s a favorite memory you have of us together?

Conversation topics for siblings

70. What’s one of your favorite memories from our childhood?

71. What do you think everyone in the family will be doing 10 years from now?

“Which characteristics do you think you inherited from our parents?”

72. Do you have a morning routine?

73. What was your favorite subject in school? Favorite teacher?

74. Which characteristics do you think you inherited from our parents?

75. If you could return to school, what would you study?

76. What Netflix show or movie are you watching?

77. What are you currently reading?

78. What food reminds you most of home?

79. What do you love most about yourself?

Conversation topics for work

80. What accomplishments are you most proud of?

81. What projects are you working on right now that bring you joy?

82. How do you unwind after work?

83. Do you listen to any podcasts during your commute? If so, which ones?

“How do you track your work goals and accomplishments?”

84. What do you enjoy most about our company?

85. Where do you need support that you’re not getting it?

86. How do you track your work goals and accomplishments?

87. Do you enjoy networking? Why or why not?

88. What was your very first job?

89. What skills are you focused on cultivating right now?

Conversation topics for strangers

90. How are you truly doing?

91. What’s one act of kindness you experienced today?

92. What do you do for enjoyment?

93. Do you recharge by being around other people or by spending time alone?

“What is the compliment you receive most often?”

94. If you had a day to yourself, what would it look like, where would you go, and what would you do?

95. What is the compliment you receive most often?

96. Do you collect anything?

97. What was the last movie you watched?

98. What’s one thing your loved ones would be surprised to learn about you?

99. If you woke up one morning and all your problems were solved, how would you go about your day?

Kayti Christian is a Senior Content Strategist at The Good Trade. With an MFA in Nonfiction Creative Writing, her work has appeared in TODAY, Shondaland, and The New York Times. Since 2017, Kayti has been uncovering and reviewing the best sustainable home brands and wellness products. Her personal journey through four years of fertility treatments has inspired her to write extensively about women’s healthcare and reproductive access. Beyond her work at The Good Trade, Kayti is the creator of phone notes, a Substack newsletter with 7,000 subscribers, and the cohost of the FriedEggs Podcast, which delves into IVF and infertility.

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We’ve researched the best online couples therapy platforms — these are our top choices that are inclusive, discreet, and offer affordable pricing or insurance coverage.

Relationship and marriage counseling is perfectly normal. Romantic comedies often paint relationships as easy — effortless, even. But the truth is that a commitment to someone isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it kind of thing. Relationships require maintenance, especially as circumstances shift and change.

Perhaps you’ve mastered the art of open and honest communication or you share love languages with your partner. If so, congratulations — you’ve cracked the age-old code! If you’re finding it to be a particular challenge though, know that you’re not alone. Every partnership has annoyances, complications, and miscommunications — you’re each growing! And, whether it’s a big hurdle or a small hiccup, couples therapy can help you return to smoother sailing.

Why consider virtual couples therapy?

Online couples therapy can be a great option for people seeking accessible ways to improve their relationships. You’ll be able to access therapy in the comfort of your own space without the need to travel, helping you save time and money (it’s also discreet). You’ll have access to a wider range of therapists — perhaps someone who understands your specific needs — rather than being limited to services in your area. Virtual couples therapy is often more flexible too, with a larger array of available times that can work better for you and your partner’s schedule.

What should you look for in a therapy service?

With so many different types of therapy services out there, what should you look for when finding the right therapist for you? It’s important to ensure the therapist you select is licensed with verifiable credentials, and specializes in working with couples specifically. There are also various couples therapeutic techniques, including EFT, CBT, and the Gottman Method, so be sure you understand these differences and research or discuss with your therapist to find out if their approach is the right fit for you and your partner’s needs. Be sure to also inquire whether the therapist or therapy service accepts insurance, or offers financial assistance or lower-cost therapy options, as needed. 

“There is no shame in seeking help — and going to therapy together isn’t a sign of failure.”

And most importantly, compatibility is everything! Feeling comfortable and heard is essential to successful therapy, so make sure you feel confident that you and your partner can build a strong relationship with your therapist.

How much does online couples therapy cost?

Online couples therapy can cost on average anywhere from $40 to $275 per session, depending on the platform, therapist’s experience, and session length. Subscription-based therapy services typically cost $65 to $90 per week, which can also include unlimited messaging. If you go with a private therapist, expect to pay $100 to $200 per session, though some therapy networks even offer low-cost therapy through sliding-scale rates. You’ll find most of the couples therapy services we’ve featured below can range anywhere on average from $160/month for online couples counselling, all the way up to $3500 for a couples counselling retreat.

We’ve also included affordable therapy services on this list that charge per session, starting at $40, as well as self-guided counselling apps, which start as low as $12 per month. Insurance might cover part of the cost, but not all plans include couples therapy — we’ve noted which one of these recommended therapy services accept insurance. Overall, we’ve included a wide range of options, whether you’re looking for budget-friendly help or premium sessions with top professionals.

Whether you need mediation for discussions around parenting, emotional connection, or even if you’re looking to improve your sex life, there’s a therapist who can support you. (You can even find a professional to help transition you through a separation mindfully.) 

Just remember: There is no shame in seeking help — and going to therapy together isn’t a sign of failure.

Our criteria:

Our team has researched dozens of couples therapy platforms and scoured thousands of online reviews to select our best options for couple therapy. We regularly update this list with emerging platforms that meet our criteria.

• INCLUSIVE | Each of these virtual couples therapy services provides an inclusive range of therapists from different backgrounds, ensuring you’ll find a therapist that fits your needs and can deeply resonate with your life experiences.
• AFFORDABLE | Most of these online therapy platforms offer therapists at an affordable price range and/or offer flexible terms (including one option that accepts insurance).
• PRIVATE | Each of these virtual therapy services work hard to keep your data safe through encryption, with many platforms adhering to HIPAA compliant practices.

Be sure to also check out our list of affordable online therapy for individuals (because a relationship is only as healthy as the people who are in it!). If you are seeking a therapist with your shared experience, you can search for therapists via Inclusive Therapists and the National Queer and Trans Therapists of Color Network. Or, if you’d prefer to meet with a therapist in person or in a hybrid setting, here’s our go-to guide on finding the therapist right for you.

Best For Privacy And Compliance | Quick Counselor Matching | Most Affordable

1. Regain 

Intimacy counseling

LGBTQ friendly

Licensed therapists

Subscriptions available

Text message availability

Best For | Quick counselor matching
Features | All therapists are licensed, have at least 3 years of experience & at least 1000 hours on hands-on experience
HIPAA Compliant | No; system is encrypted
Insurance Accepted | No, offers lower cost therapy 
Pricing | $65 to $90/week (billed every 4 weeks)

As part of the BetterHelp network (a top choice for individual online therapy), Regain was specifically created with couples in mind. Fill out a survey with your current relationship needs and get matched with a counselor in a few days. Your therapist will be licensed and certified, and has experience in relationship counseling — so you can navigate any chapter (whether it’s together on a joint account, or you’re doing some work on your own!).

Customer Review | “I am really enjoying this service. I was skeptical at first, but being that you have the ability to have video therapy sessions is great. You’re still able to have a “face to face” conversation but in your own comfort. Having the ability to message my therapist throughout the week is a great plus too. My therapist, Deborah, is absolutely amazing. She’s a great listener, provides great advice, and helps me dig deeper with the questions she asks. I’ve only had 2 sessions with her and I’m feeling very optimistic. Would definitely recommend her.” – Anonymous (Read all reviews.)

2. Talkspace

Accepts insurance

HIPAA compliant

Intimacy counseling

LGBTQ friendly

Licensed therapists

Multiple languages

Text message availability

Best For | Direct messaging with therapists
Features | Relationship, marriage, or premarital counseling, text messaging or video sessions
HIPAA Compliant | Yes
Insurance Accepted | Yes, check your coverage
Pricing | Starts at $69/week (live sessions & unlimited messaging)

Knowing where to start can be half the battle, and Talkspace’s couples therapy can help you identify the issues in your relationship. You can seek support for yourself as an individual, or work with your partner and an unbiased professional to open new paths of communication, restore trust, and find solutions that work for your relationship. Talkspace offers both video sessions and accessible messaging, so you can get support no matter what your schedule looks like.

Customer Review | “We were paired with a super helpful couples therapist and even in just a few short months, our marriage feels back on track. Highly recommend it, and the app just makes the service even easier to use on the go.” – Annecharbs (Read all reviews.)

3. OurRitual

Budget friendly

Intimacy counseling

Licensed therapists

Subscriptions available

Best For | Accessible & flexible relationship guidance
Features | Personalized plans, 1:1 weekly sessions with an expert, uses EFT & the Gottman Method, encrypted platform
HIPAA Compliant | No (does not share any information with third parties)
Insurance Accepted | No, lower cost service
Pricing | Starts at $128/month for a single person; $208/month for a couple

Tackle your relationship issues head-on with OurRitual’s guided in-app service. With simply 20 minutes a day and a personalized plan catered to your relationship needs, OurRitual uses exercises, journaling, and 1:1 support to help you and your partner get back on track. Each session provides videos and tasks that are evidence-based and tried-and-tested methods to help you both integrate new approaches into your relationship successfully. OurRitual is proof that knowledge is power and learning new tools can make a world of a difference.   

Customer Review | “For years we’ve had this recurring fight. Tonight when it came up, we took a step back and rewatched the video together. It changed EVERYTHING! Turned an old argument into a good conversation.” – Veronica (Read all reviews.)

4. Couples Therapy Inc.

HIPAA compliant

Intimacy counseling

Licensed therapists

Multiple languages

Text message availability

Best For | Coaching & sex therapy
Features | Evidence-based retreats, courses, & intensive therapy sessions, multiple languages & countries served, in-person options
HIPAA Compliant | Yes
Insurance Accepted | No, alternative options available
Pricing | Online coaching sessions start at $150/session; weekend retreats start at $3500

Working with couples isn’t a niche service for Couples Therapy Inc. — it’s the core focus of this team of Gottman-certified clinicians. After the founder herself experienced sub-par couples counseling, she devoted her practice to science-based coaching, therapy, and retreats (including online retreats). Couples Therapy Inc. also offers international therapists that service in Germany, Great Britain, and Canada.

Customer Review | “Couples Therapy Inc. is serious business – no margaritas, group sessions or yoga classes… a science-based intensive one-on-one retreat addressing your relationship issues head on with a skilled doctoral or masters-level couples therapist.”  – Anonymous (Read all reviews.)

5. Open Path

Budget friendly

Intimacy counseling

LGBTQ friendly

Licensed therapists

Multiple languages

Best For | Affordable therapy
Features | Online & in-person services, nonprofit network
HIPAA Compliant | No (not a healthcare company); mental health clinicians must oblige with HIPAA
Insurance Accepted | No, offers lower cost therapy
Pricing | One-time $65 membership fee; starts at $40/session

While not exclusively online, Open Path is a nonprofit network of mental health professionals offering affordable psychotherapy options for low- and middle-income patients. You’ll find your next therapist through the search function (be sure to search for providers in the state in which you live). Open Path is excellent for people with financial limitations, charging only $40 – $70 per session for couples after the one-time registration fee.

Customer Review | “Open Path may have truly saved me in a very desperate time of needed guidance. I needed perspective and a safe place to figure out how to direct the next part of my journey. Open Path allowed me to easily find someone who matched my needs and I feel very grateful for Open Path and my counselor, that I otherwise could not afford. It’s still tough but it’s worth every bit of every cent spent taking care of myself. Thank you to all of you who provide this service on a sliding scale, truly grateful!” – Jasmine (Read all reviews.)

A bonus option

Lasting

Budget friendly

Intimacy counseling

Subscriptions available

Best For | Self-guided relationship counseling
Features | iPhone & Android app, free trial, research-based sessions & courses, individual therapy options
HIPAA Compliant | No
Insurance Accepted | No, low-cost courses
Pricing | Starts at $12/month

Lasting’s aim is simple: “Show everyone how to love better,” through its couples counseling app. While you won’t speak directly with a counselor, this app is designed by therapists for couples (and couples’ therapists!) to support a deeper, more communicative partnership. Use Lasting on its own and enjoy the workshops and courses on topics like repair, family culture, and sexual desire, or pair it with other virtual or in-person sessions for even greater accountability and long-term support.

Customer Review | “OMG! Amazing App! It only had been a couple of days. My marriage had improved enormously. This app has fantastic workshops, questions, and sessions that have helped strengthen my relationship with my wife. The unique part, in my opinion, is that every day they ask us to talk about something important. They also have reminders such as saying to your wife you love her. Or something that makes her smile. Those reminders helped me a lot to make sure my wife know I appreciated her. My wife and I see a couple therapist, and the app has helped us more in a couple of days than the real-life therapist. I recommend this app to any couple who really wants to build a stronger relationship.” – Anonymous (Read all reviews.)

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Our editors have worn and loved sustainable jewelry for years — these are our favorite brands for ethical engagement and wedding rings at a range of price points.

For socially conscious couples, an ethically sourced engagement ring is a must and, thankfully, there is a range of stunning and affordable options! When it comes time to pop the big question, we’re looking for jewelry that not only looks beautiful — but is also made with recycled or fair trade gold, as well as conflict-free diamonds and jewels. 

Why choose ethical engagement and wedding rings?

When it comes to choosing the perfect engagement ring, there are both human rights and environmental concerns to be considered. The harvesting of diamonds has a history of fueling conflict, and the mining of precious metals is often damaging to the environment. Beyond this, miners are frequently denied fair wages and adequate health and safety provisions.

Ethical rings, on the other hand, often come from suppliers adhering to fair trade principles, ensuring safe working conditions and fair pay, and investing in community development. Sustainable options like recycled metals and lab-grown diamonds help reduce environmental harm and ethical concerns surrounding traditional diamond and metal mining. Companies that are committed to ethical practices also provide transparency in their supply chains, offering peace of mind when it comes time to purchase your engagement or wedding ring. By choosing ethical jewelry, you’ll be presenting not only a commitment to your loved one, but a commitment to the planet and humanity!

What should you look for when shopping for ethical, sustainable rings?

When shopping for an ethical, sustainable ring, it’s important to consider where the materials come from and how they’re sourced. Look for diamonds certified through the Kimberley Process, a system designed to prevent the trade of conflict diamonds. Additional certifications such as Fairmined or Fair Trade gold help ensure your jewelry also meets fair wage, ethical labor, and environmental responsibility practices. Recycled metals are another great option, as they reduce the need for new mining while still offering high-quality materials.

For those looking to avoid mining altogether, lab-grown diamonds provide a stunning, ethical alternative. These diamonds are chemically and visually identical to mined diamonds but are created in controlled environments, eliminating the social and environmental damage associated with traditional mining. They often have a significantly lower carbon footprint, especially when produced using renewable energy. Beyond diamonds, other lab-created gemstones like moissanite and sapphires are great choices that don’t carry the ethical concerns of traditional mining.

Of course one of the top ways to shop sustainably is by choosing pre-loved or antique rings. Vintage jewelry not only carries unique charm and history, but it also completely bypasses the need for new mining, making it one of the most environmentally friendly options. Estate jewelry stores, antique dealers, and even online marketplaces offer a wide selection of rings from different eras, from solitaire diamond rings to something unique! Whether you opt for a recycled, lab-grown, or pre-loved ring, prioritizing transparency and ethical sourcing ensures your jewelry reflects both beauty and responsibility.

Our criteria:

Our editors have cherished their own sustainable and ethical jewelry for years. For this list, we’ve compiled our favorite jewelers with ethical commitments so your engagement or wedding ring can be stunning, conflict-free, and even affordable. We continually add new favorites to the list that meet the following criteria.

• SUSTAINABLE | These ethical jewelry brands take sustainability seriously ensuring each of their jewelry pieces are made with eco-friendly materials like recycled gold and gemstones. 
• ETHICAL & CONFLICT-FREE | Each one of these ethical jewelry brands strictly uses only conflict-free diamond and gemstones in their jewelry, whether certified by the Kimberly process or grown in a lab. 
• AFFORDABLE | Gold and diamond jewelry can be expensive, so we’ve included plenty of affordable options on this list that don’t sacrifice on quality and ethics.

Additionally, second hand rings from auction sites like eBay, vintage finds on Etsy, and online or local consignment shops are a great option if you’re looking for something that’s new-to-you without the new carbon footprint.

For further sustainable wedding brands, check out our guide to men’s ethical wedding bands and eco-friendly wedding dresses!

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1. Brilliant Earth

Eco friendly packaging

Gives back

Made to order

Natural materials

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Best For | Conflict-free gemstones
Features | Beyond Conflict Free diamonds, conflict-free & ethical gemstones, lab-grown diamonds, recycled metals, fairmined gold, design your own engagement ring
Price Range | $520 – $6,090+

Brilliant Earth is a pioneer in ethical jewelry, one of the first to provide traceability and always going above and beyond the industry benchmarks of conflict-free gems. They adhere to strict guidelines for mining practices and standards that ensure their gems have ethical and environmentally responsible origins. If the provenance of your diamond is something you care about, you will have no trouble tracing your Brilliant Earth gem: Claims for natural diamonds, recycled gold, and recycled diamonds are independently audited and verified, so you know you can trust them!

Customer Review | “Brilliant Earth has a wide range of diamonds to offer, with ten different styles, multiple carats, cuts, and colors. Their selection of Lab Diamonds and Lab Created Colored Diamonds is unmatched.” – Your Diamond Guru (Read all reviews.)

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2. Vintage Engagement Rings on Etsy

Budget friendly

Handcrafted

Made to order

Recycled materials

Second hand

Small business

Best For | Unique & antique rings
Features | Recycled, upcycled & vintage rings, ethically-sourced diamonds & gemstones, lab grown diamonds, handmade engagement rings
Price Range | Varies

One of the simplest ways to become more sustainable (and create less waste) is to wear and use your items for longer. And this can include your jewelry! On Etsy, engagement rings from all over the world are given a second life. As shoppers can filter their options by desired gemstone, shape, band material, price, and more, you’re bound to find something you’ll love. Some of our favorites include Estate Antique Jewelry, Cileone Jewelry, and Pebble and Polish. Etsy also offsets 100 percent of carbon emissions from shipping, so every time you make a purchase you’re creating a positive environmental impact.

Customer Review | “Gorgeous ring made for a memorable anniversary gift. Great, super prompt shipping and friendly service. Highly recommended!” – buzzanderson (Read all reviews.)

3. Mejuri

BIPOC Owned

Budget friendly

Gives back

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Affordable rings for all genders
Features | Responsibly sourced lab grown diamonds, carbon neutral lab grown diamonds, recycled gold & silver
Price Range | $148 – $3,900

Mejuri’s fine jewelry is more than just “fine”… it’s impeccable. In addition to everyday pieces, you can find engagement rings and bands for all genders. Rings are made with ethically sourced natural gemstones and conflict-free diamonds – and 80 percent of gold used is recycled with the other 20 percent certified responsible. (Read more in our Mejuri review). Production takes place around the world including Canada, India, Italy, and Korea where makers have safe and fair working environments. Mejuri also gives back to women and nonbinary folks through its Empowerment Fund. Get a ring that will have a lifetime of memories and impact.

Customer Review | “I have purchased several items from Mejuri including rings, earrings, necklaces and charms. The quality is excellent, the pieces are worn daily and both myself and the people I have gifted to enjoy their beauty and resilience to everyday wear.” – Laura (Read all reviews.)

4. Blue Nile

American made

Eco friendly packaging

Handcrafted

Made to order

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Best For | Lifetime diamond upgrade & diamond price matching programs
Features | 100 percent responsibly-mined conflict-free diamonds, gemstone options, build-your-own-ring
Price Range | $540 – $18,350+ (setting price)

Founded in 1999, Blue Nile was one of the first jewelers to offer high-quality diamonds at great value through their innovative online business model. The company prioritizes transparency and exceptional service, through their team of non-commissioned jewelry experts that are dedicated to customer excellence. Blue Nile handcrafts their engagement rings and fine jewelry at their New York headquarters, helping you design the perfect pieces for any occasion. They solely utilize ethically sourced diamonds that are 100% conflict-free and compliant with the Kimberley process. Blue Nile stands out from the rest through their diamond price-match guarantee and lifetime upgrade programs for GIA-graded diamonds, ultimately highlighting their commitment to being your trusted jeweler for life!

Customer Review | “The ease of picking a diamond and band was so easy it was incredible. I went browsing at local shops and NOTHING compares to the quality selection you get with Blue Nile. Don’t waste your time with these retail stores, Blue Nile makes it easy and their representatives are super friendly and are amazing people.” – Bryan R. (Read all reviews.)

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5. Bario Neal 

Climate neutral

Gender inclusive

Gives back

Handcrafted

Made to order

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Customized & cluster rings
Features | Fairmined gold, traceable gemstones, reclaimed metals, recycled diamonds, lab-grown diamonds, personalized rings
Price Range | $70 – $11,430+

A longtime supporter of LGBTQ+ rights and worldwide marriage equality, Philadelphia- and Brooklyn-based jeweler Bario Neal can craft custom rings truly reflective of our relationships — from personalizations to reworking heirloom materials. The women-owned company also uses recycled metals, traceable stones, and Fairmined certified gold for its handmade pieces. And we don’t know anyone who can curate a cluster ring quite like this. If you’re feeling a little lost on how to even start ring shopping, we spoke with Bario Neal to determine some helpful questions to guide your journey!

Customer Review | “I’ve been shopping at Bario Neal since before they had a storefront. I have a variety of pieces from them from fine to fun and they always deliver on values, quality, and design. I wish there were a business like Bario Neal in every domain. Then we could shop freely and know we were doing little harm and getting great products.” – Amanda F. (Read all reviews.)

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6. Aurate

American made

Budget friendly

Gives back

Made to order

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Minimalist wedding bands made in the USA
Features | Ethically-sourced diamonds, lab-grown diamonds, recycled gold, bespoke rings
Price Range | $2,400 – $4,500

Aurate believes you shouldn’t have to choose between high quality, fair pricing, and doing good when it comes to purchasing jewelry. The brand goes beyond the Kimberley Process and tracks every natural diamond from mine to its local New York workshop to ensure it comes from verifiably ethical and environmentally sound sources; you can also choose from lab-grown diamonds if that’s your preference. Every ring comes with a certificate of authenticity, and Aurate’s proceeds regularly support orgs like Mastery Charter and She Should Run.

Customer Review | “This ring was much lovelier and heavier than I expected for the “mini” ring. Very nice quality!” – Judith F. (Read all reviews.)

7. Catori Life

1% for the planet

American made

Eco friendly packaging

Gives back

Natural materials

Plant trees

Best For | Signet & gemstone rings
Features | Ethically-sourced & reclaimed materials & diamonds
Price Range | $62 – $1,890

Catori Life crafts ethically made jewelry right here in the USA using the most unique reclaimed materials. From natural diamonds, to black tourmaline, to larimar, and even ancient grey diamonds, there’s no shortage of making a statement with one of these exceptional rings! The brand explains the intention behind the use of each metal and stone, revealing just how much thought goes into the creation process of each item of jewelry. Your purchase also supports causes like 1% for the planet and the Eden Reforestation Project.

Customer Review | “I love all of my pieces from Catori. This is no exception. 🩷“ – Cara E. (Read all reviews.)

8. James Allen

American made

Made to order

Warranty offered

Best For | Designer collections, loose diamonds, lifetime warranty, 24/7 customer service
Features | Custom rings, 500,00+ certified conflict-free diamonds,
Price Range | $1,590 – $101,200

Since 2006, the four minds behind James Allen have turned the brand from an idea to the largest privately held online diamond retailer worldwide. With more than 200,000 conflict-free diamonds, every setting imaginable, pre-made designer collections, and even loose diamonds, you can create the ring of your dreams with confidence. Even better: James Allen offers 24/7 customer service with real-time inspection, so you can see what gemologists are seeing. There’s a 100 percent money-back guarantee if you’re not happy for any reason. It’s no secret why James Allen has grown to be one of the most reputable conflict-free retailers in the world.

Customer Review | “You will never be able to select diamonds from a larger inventory at a brick and mortar. I hand-picked my stone and designed the ring just as I envisioned it and it came out perfect. Thank you James Allen!” – Nygil F. (Read all reviews.)

9. Catbird

American made

Gives back

Handcrafted

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Variety of designers & styles
Features | Recycled gold, conflict-free stones, personalized rings
Price Range | $230 – $13,800

Catbird has been based out of Brooklyn for the last 18 years, and the brand only keeps growing. Many pieces are handmade in a small Brooklyn studio, using recycled gold, while all of the stones are conflict-free. Its inventory of engagement rings is crafted by a variety of designers like Erstwhile, Gillian Conroy, and Kataoka, in addition to the Catbird Wedding line. Named after princesses, swans, and fairytales, your partner will feel like royalty with one of these beautiful and exquisite pieces.

Customer Review | “Every package I get from Catbird is an event. It’s nicely wrapped, with charming extras, and the jewelry itself is polished, beautiful, dainty, and surprisingly durable. (I wear my necklace and rings every day, and I’m a teacher.) Just wanted to say thank you for your attention to detail. Your entire team, from design to execution to packaging & shipping, is outstanding.With love, from a happy customer.” – D. (Read all reviews.)

10. Taylor & Hart

American made

Fair trade

Made to order

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Best For | Custom rings
Features | Fair trade & recycled metals, Canadamark diamonds, Diamond Time Lapse diamonds, ethically-sourced diamonds
Price Range | $840 – $15,195+

An utterly bespoke process, we love that Taylor & Hart walks you through creating your perfect piece. The company goes beyond the Kimberley Process to ensure that the diamonds are conflict-free, and believes that by purchasing an ethically crafted ring, one of the greatest moments of your life can also be a small step towards a better world. Taylor & Hart will work closely with you through personal consultation to design the perfect ring within four weeks.

Customer Review | “The whole process was really easy and the delivery was on time. Customer service were great answering any questions and I would highly recommend them as the final product is perfect!” – Nick (Read all reviews.)

11. Vrai

American made

Gives back

Made to order

Plant trees

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Simple, clean styles
Features | Custom, made-to-order engagement rings, American lab-grown diamonds, GIA diamond grades
Price Range | $900 – $3,300+

Committed to transparency and quality, Vrai (truth in French; gold in Spanish) crafts engagement rings without the markups. The collection includes pieces with either white or black diamonds, stacking rings, and various stone sizes, striking the perfect balance between simple and unique. Made in the USA with lab-created diamonds from Diamond Foundry (also made in the USA), getting back to basics has never been easier.

12. Plum Diamonds

American made

Made to order

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Recycled metals, lab-grown diamonds
Features | Woman-owned & operated, RJC certified, American lab-grown diamonds, recycled gold & metals
Price Range | $910 – $3,490+

Plum Diamonds combines quality, sustainability, and ethics in every piece of jewelry they create. As a women-owned brand, they craft stunning rings using lab-grown diamonds, which are conflict-free and environmentally friendly (not to mention more affordable than their mined counterparts). Their commitment to sustainability extends to using 100% recycled metals and maintaining their RJC certification, ensuring ethical labor practices, responsible sourcing, and minimal environmental impact. Partnering with SCS-007-certified diamond growers, they guarantee traceable, climate-neutral diamonds that are as responsible as they are stunning!

Customer Review | “I am absolutely in love with my engagement ring! It’s stunning! The sparkle, the design, everything about it just feels so special and meaningful. Every time I look at it, I can’t help but smile. It’s perfect in every way, and I’m beyond thrilled!” – Brian S. (Read all reviews.)

13. Sofia Kaman

American made

Handcrafted

Recycled materials

Woman owned

Best For | One-of-a-kind rings
Features | Recycled metals, conflict-free diamonds, lab-grown diamonds, bespoke rings, antique diamonds
Price Range | $2,640 – $85,000

If you’re looking for an eco-friendly ring, Sofia Kaman has a lot to offer. Whether you want a band made of recycled metal or an antique gem that won’t result in any additional environmental costs, the company’s selections are romantic, modern, and everything in between. And they’re all handcrafted in Los Angeles. When it comes to diamonds, Sofia Kaman sources its stones through dealers who abide by the Kimberley Process and can guarantee them to be conflict-free. Or, you can work with the company to create a custom ring using a lab-grown diamond that was made with renewable energy!

14. Valerie Madison

BIPOC Owned

Made to order

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Responsibly sourced diamond alternatives
Features | Custom orders, heirloom reworks, moissanite & gemstone rings
Price Range | $450 – $15,750

If mainstream diamonds aren’t your best friend, we recommend Valerie Madison’s gorgeous alternative engagement rings. The brand’s rings and bands are made with recycled gold and diamonds, ethically sourced gems, and diamond alternatives such as lab-produced Moissanite. Choose from an array of pre-made stunners, or create a custom one of your own (see past custom orders here), with beautiful options like salt & pepper diamonds, teal sapphires, or lavender spinel. If you live near Seattle, you can also schedule a consultation or pick-up at Valerie Madison’s new showroom in the Madrona neighborhood to further lower your carbon footprint. 

15. WWAKE

American made

BIPOC Owned

Gives back

Made to order

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Extra-thin or extra-chunky rings
Features | Custom & heirloom designs, responsibly sourced materials
Price Range | $240 – $5,100+

Stared by Wing Yau in 2012, WWAKE was built with the dream to “merge art with the intimacy of jewelry.” That ethos shines through most clearly in its unique line of wedding and engagement rings. Whether you prefer delicate bands with beautiful gemstones or chunky rings with a standout diamond, WWAKE makes options for every hand (or partner!). Every piece is handmade in its NYC to keep its carbon footprint as low as possible. Schedule a virtual consultation, stop by its Brooklyn studio, or see its inventory at Catbird — one of our other favorites for romantic jewelry.

16. Jennie Kwon Designs

American made

Fair trade

Made to order

Woman owned

Best For | Antique-inspired designs
Features | Fairmined gold, ethically sourced & conflict-free diamonds, custom rings
Price Range | $175 – $10,500

If art-deco spaces, Victorian-era jewelry, and Grecian design make your heart swoon, then you’ll love Jennie Kwon Designs. With a focus on “thoughtful jewelry with a soul,” this sustainable brand carries hundreds of stunners and made-to-order pieces for that special one in your life. Only ethically sourced and conflict-free stones as well as Fair Trade and Fairmined gold are used, so you can rest easy and support this woman-owned and led brand.

Customer Review | “Hello, I would just to love to say thank you for my beautiful engagement ring, it couldn’t be more beautiful or perfect. You made the process of coming in and finding this truly a wonderful experience for us. Thank you so much!!!”– Anonymous (Read all reviews.)

17. Automic Gold

BIPOC Owned

Budget friendly

Eco friendly packaging

Gender inclusive

Made to order

Recycled materials

Size inclusive

Small business

Warranty offered

Best For | Minimalist engagement bands that are size- & gender-inclusive
Features | Recycled metals & gemstones, lab-made stones, custom rings
Price Range | $292 – $2,565+

Automic Gold is redefining what it means to be inclusive, and we are here for it. This queer-owned brand handcrafts all sorts of sustainable fine jewelry out of its NYC studio, including earrings, necklaces, and of course, wedding rings. Responsibly sourced, all gold is certified recycled, diamonds are completely natural, and gemstones are ethically mined — and it’s all well-priced! Offering customization, engraving, and inclusive size options (2 – 16), there are rings for every gender, size, and style.

Featured image is from WWAKE

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Our team has loved playing tabletop games with our friends and families for years — these are our top picks for conversation decks that are fun, engaging, and go deep.

It’s not always easy to break the ice — especially if you’re an introvert (*raises hand*). But there’s something comforting and reliable about a conversation deck; there’s less pressure to come up with stimulating conversation, and you can let the cards lead the way instead. 

After all, following a few prompts, the conversation flows more easily and new connections are built that can last a lifetime. (Heck, even if you’re with people you see regularly, you can learn something you’ve never known before.)

What are conversation cards?

Unlike other games — board games, video games, you name it — conversation cards exist expressly to encourage openness, connection, and trust. (OK, laughter and raunchiness too, at times.) Decks can range from featuring easy-going icebreakers for groups of colleagues or strangers, to one-on-one questions about intimacy, desires, and vulnerabilities. 

We’ve rounded up seven decks below that run the gamut, so no matter what situation you’re in, you’ll have thoughtful questions you can pose every single time.

Our criteria

Our team has personally played and loved the games on this list, as well as many more! The selections below are a fit for a variety of occasions — from date night to game night to team bonding — and build connections old and new. They’re all easy to play, and sure to engage the whole group.

1. Actually Curious

BIPOC Owned

Budget friendly

Family owned

Natural materials

Plastic/Pfas free

Small business

Best For | Themed conversation topics
Price | $25

Curiosity Lab, led by Michael Tennant, created Actually Curious as a conversation card game to spread empathy, build trust, and advocate for inclusivity. Today, the brand has multiple conversation decks across various themes, from the social justice-focused “Human Rights” edition to the “Our Future” edition for couples and close friends. This family-led, Black-owned small business produces all decks using ethical labor and sustainably sourced paper. If you’re not sure which deck is for you, try their quiz — whichever you choose, you’re sure to experience some intimate and powerful connections.

Customer Review | “No, this isn’t really a game, it’s [a] conversation starter tool in an easy to use deck of cards […] We’ve gotten a lot of these type of ‘games’ this past year and this one has some of the most interesting and unique questions of any we’ve tried.” — Heidi (Read more reviews)

2. Where Should We Begin?

Budget friendly

Natural materials

Small business

Woman owned

Best For | Playing over & over
Price | $40

Esther Perel is best known for her incredible work on human relationships, and Where Should We Begin? — named after her chart-topping podcast — is a wonderful way to learn about the people in your life. This set comes with 200 story cards, a 6-sided die, and suggestions for up to 6 players (including a “safe for work” modification). That way, you can play time and time again with all new variations, prompts, and responses. Packaged in a small, portable box, you can bring this conversational deck/game with you to date nights, parties, or even work outings.

Customer Review | “From the moment we opened the box, my husband and I began going into completely unexplored areas of our relationship. We laughed and just enjoyed each other’s company in a very new way.” — Emanuela (Read more reviews)

3. Kinn

BIPOC Owned

Budget friendly

Natural materials

Small business

Woman owned

Best For | Mixers, new crowds, parties
Price | $28

Kinn’s conversation cards are as beautiful as they are intriguing. Every deck includes 40 ice-breakers, each one highlighted with stunning hand-drawn illustrations by an Austin-based artist. Whether you’re at work with colleagues or hosting a mixer amongst new friends, these cards provide light conversation and an opportunity for bonding without feeling overly intimate. Proceeds from this lovely little deck support the UN’s World Food Program’s Zero Hunter Initiative, which also makes for a great housewarming or birthday gift!

Customer Review | “With our family being inside most of the time, receiving these conversation cards I ordered, were an unexpected pleasure! We have had fun asking the questions and discussing our responses. What a cool idea! It has grown a stronger bond between me and my kinfolk!” — Kim R. (Read more reviews)

4. Get Closer

Budget friendly

FSC

Natural materials

Plastic/Pfas free

Recycled materials

Small business

Best For | Levels of intimacy
Price | $20–$30

From the team at Intelligent Change (who also brought us the very popular Five Minute Journals and Productivity Planners) comes Get Closer conversation decks. These curated questions are inspired by positive psychology, a branch of psychology focused on cultivating satisfaction and contentment. Here you can find conversation cards for couples, families, work teams, strangers, first dates, and more — and each set includes prompts with varying levels of “closeness.” Go up a level, down a level, or continue as is — up to everyone’s comfort. Intelligent Change products are made solely with natural, recycled, and biodegradable materials! 

Customer Review | “I’ve now used this deck in group settings, 1:1 settings, and even on dates. Such a hit, lots of good questions, and I like that there’s a lot so if someone is uncomfy with one, there’s not a lot of pressure to answer it and you can pick from various intensities.” — Annabelle S. (Read more reviews)

5. Healthy Convo Co.

Budget friendly

Natural materials

Small business

Best For | Adults (couples, bachelorettes, etc.)
Price | $29

Looking for something a little more risqué? Consider Healthy Convo Co.’s Raunchier Together set! (Don’t worry, there are G-rated sets too: “Healthier Together,” “We’re All in This Together,” and “Working Together.”) These R-rated cards are divided into 6 categories: Preferences, Dares, Confessions, Games, Fantasies, and Assignments, and you can use a die for more structured play or freestyle. Bring this to your next girls’ night, close-knit dinner party, or bachelorette party and enjoy the hilarity that ensues.

Customer Review | “I played this with my wife and our friends. I learned a lot, I laughed, and I cried (from laughing so hard). These are great wholesome (for adults only) questions to spice up a cocktail evening amongst friends. The questions are general enough to scale the raunchy based on the comfort level of the group playing.” — Jonathan B. (Read more reviews)

6. We’re Not Really Strangers

Budget friendly

Natural materials

Small business

Best For | Strangers & couples
Price | $12–$30

We’re Not Really Strangers went seriously viral in the pandemic, helping to build connections digitally during lockdown. Today, this card game has over 2,000 5-star ratings. There are 150 questions in the main deck across three levels of intimacy, and up to 6 people (yes, even strangers!) can play at once. If you want to dig deeper — whether with yourself or loved ones — you can also check out the various expansion packs (i.e., Self Love Game, XXX, Breakup Kit, and a Kids Edition). We love how it unlocks a sense of vulnerability and openness in a way most conversation sets don’t.

Customer Review | “It was so intriguing especially to get to know others better. Being vulnerable is something not a lot of people can do […] I became the most honest version of myself during this game and it was like a breath of fresh air to be willing to get some things off my chest. It also gives others an opportunity to get to know more about you and your perspective on some things which can be helpful.” — Bella (Read more reviews)

7. ban.do

Budget friendly

Natural materials

Small business

Woman owned

Best For | Dating
Price | $25

Whether you’re embarking on that first date or trying to spice up a long-term relationship, ban.do’s Dating Conversation Cards are sure to reveal new insights about your partner. This 3×3” box set includes 75 conversation prompts, ranging from lighthearted and fun to seriously deep and eye-opening. At just $25, it’s also the perfect gift for loved ones reentering the dating scene after a breakup or two friends you’re trying to match together. 😉

Featured image is from Kinn

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We’ve researched and tested dozens of filtered shower heads — these are our top picks that are effective, easy to use, and help us save water.

If you’ve ever suffered from dry skin or scalp, eczema, or brittle strands, hard water may be to blame. Most of the US water supply is considered “hard water,” aka water with extra minerals. While not all minerals in hard water are dangerous, there is the potential for contaminants like heavy metals. You’ll often see those same effects of hard water in our skin, hair, and even build-up in the shower.

What are the benefits of a filtered shower head? 

One easy way to reduce hard water is by shifting to a filtered shower head. Filtered shower heads use Kinetic Degradation Fluxion (KDF) — otherwise known as a zinc or copper filter—to get rid of contaminants and only pass through clear, clean water instead. 

Some studies suggest that minerals in shower water might contribute to dryness and irritation, and shower head filters can help remove these and other chemicals that are harsh on your skin and hair. Filtering these elements out can leave your skin feeling smoother and your hair looking shinier. Plus, if you live in an area with hard water (that’s water with a high mineral content), a filtered shower head that softens water can help reduce hard water damage to your hair and skin. While research on the effectiveness of filtered shower heads is still ongoing, many users swear by them for improving their overall shower experience and water quality.

If you’re looking to make the switch, we’ve rounded up seven great options worth trying. Some are full shower heads while others are filters you can add onto your existing shower head — and some even reduce our daily water use or improve water pressure. Reap both the wellness and sustainability benefits — and enjoy softer, more nourished, and shinier skin and hair along the way. 🚿

Our criteria

• EFFECTIVE FILTRATION | These filtered shower heads effectively filter out harsh chemicals, heavy chemicals, and help soften hard water, for healthier and softer skin and hair. 
• WATER USAGE | We’ve prioritized lower flow filtered shower heads to help reduce our water consumption and prevent unnecessary water waste.
• EASY TO USE | Each of these filtered shower heads fit standard showers, are easy to install, offer filter subscriptions, and look aesthetically pleasing, making it an upgrade your and your skin will appreciate for years to come!

Be sure to take your skin and hair care to the next level with these humidifiers, plastic-free water filters, and air purifiers that will keep your skin moisturized, hydrated, and free of irritants!  

Best Overall | Most Affordable | Lowest Water Consumption

1. Canopy

Natural materials

Plastic/Pfas free

Small business

Subscriptions available

Best For | A relaxing experience (with aroma!)
Notable Specs | Four colors, three-stream settings, 3-stage filter, aroma included, filters last 90 days, DIY installation
Price | $150; discounted subscriptions with new filters available

Upgrade your daily shower into a soothing spa-like ritual with Canopy’s Filtered Showerhead. Available in four colors, you can opt for the showerhead alone or add a filter or aroma/filter subscription for a discounted price. While the filter itself uses a mix of granular activated carbon, KDF-55, and calcium sulfite, there’s also a space on the shower head for a felt diffuser — so you can use essential oils and aromas simultaneously. (Eucalyptus oil for us, thanks!) You can even adjust between three stream settings to match your mood. Easy to install, even easier to use, and effective from the first wash, you’ll see why this filtered shower head has a five-star rating. If not, you can use Canopy’s 60-day Happiness Guarantee for your money back.

Canopy Review | “As I age, my skin is drying out. I have eczema and alopecia areata. Since purchasing the canopy shower head, things have drastically improved. It’s truly worth the cost. Thank you, Canopy.❤️” – Vicki (See all reviews.)

2. Jolie

Eco friendly packaging

Natural materials

Recycled materials

Small business

Subscriptions available

Best For | Chlorine & heavy metals
Notable Specs | Five colors, includes replacement filter (lasts 90 days), DIY installation, biodegradable packaging
Price | $165; discounted subscriptions with new filters available

When it comes to your hair and skin, clean water can make all the difference; that’s the premise behind Jolie’s filtered showerhead. Dubbed the “essential beauty wellness tool,” the showerhead easily filters for chlorine or heavy metals for the purest water. The filter itself is a proprietary blend of KDF-55 and calcium sulfite, so it doesn’t just meet the standard certifications — it far outpaces them. Beyond its efficacy, it’s also aesthetically pleasing and available in five beautiful colors. Opt for a subscription starting at $148 that includes a filter subscription every 90 days ($33 for each one after your initial purchase) or the standard one-time purchase with one filter. If you don’t see a difference in your skin or hair within two months, Jolie will offer you a full refund.

Jolie Review | “I’ve recently noticed my face has been more dry and red (especially being outside in the cold a lot for work) since moving to a new apartment building a few weeks ago. I’m healthy, exercise, eat clean, take daily vitamins etc and knew there had to be some underlying factor that was affecting my skin. Finally I realized it was the water. Installed the Jolie and after the first shower noticed instant results – softer skin, reduced redness, better complexion… Couldn’t believe it. Highly recommend it.” – Sam (See all reviews.)

3. Afina

Small business

Subscriptions available

Warranty offered

Best For | Healthy skin & hair
Notable Specs | Two colors, exceeds NSF-177 certifications, powerful filtration particles, filters last 90 days, lifetime warranty, DIY installation
Price | $249; discounted subscriptions filters available

Say goodbye to dry skin and dull hair with Afina’s A-01 Filtered Shower Head! Up to 98% of shower water contains chlorine, heavy metals, and other chemicals that build up on your body — thankfully, Afina effectively filters these out! Crafted to eliminate impurities, chlorine, harsh chemicals, and heavy metals, this custom filtration system will elevate your daily shower routine. Plus, customers swear by it – think reduced acne, thicker, smoother hair, and even less hair shedding. With its perfect water pressure and compact size, this filtered shower head is a win in our books. 

Afina Review | “Guys… Seriously, this showerhead is insane. I’ve only had it for a week, and I’m already seeing such a huge difference. Usually, I skip conditioner in the shower and just use leave-in, but with my old shower head, my hair would be a tangled mess. Now, I can actually run my fingers through it because it’s so soft. It’s way less frizzy and has fewer flyaways—it’s just so soft! My hair used to be so dry that I felt like I couldn’t do anything with it. Plus, I’ve noticed my skin feels super soft too, just like others have mentioned.” – Hannah R. (See all reviews)

4. Berkey

American made

Budget friendly

Family owned

Natural materials

Warranty offered

Best For | Affordability
Notable Specs | Individual filter, pairs with existing shower head if preferred, lasts up to one year, DIY installation
Price | $50

Not interested in replacing the entire showerhead? Try out Berkey’s Shower Filter, which can be used in conjunction with your existing hardware (though you can also add a shower head on for just $10 more!). Starting at $50, this affordable filter packs a mighty punch — it’ll reduce scale build-up in the shower as well as chlorine and vapor inhalation. And it’s long-lasting too, a singular filter lasts up to 20,000 gallons (or one year’s worth of showers). As for the filter, it’s a patented blend of zinc, calcium, and copper. Support this family-owned, American-made business from Colorado, and enjoy squeaky clean H2O.

Berkey Review | “This is the second Berkey shower filter I have purchased. It’s the best filter I have ever used! My hair and skin feel softer and smoother. I also know that I don’t have chlorine reaching my body or chlorine fumes in the shower with me. That’s comforting. I also like that I have the ability to backflush the filter to prevent it from plugging up. That’s a very positive feature. Easy installation. I didn’t even need to use plumbers’ tape when installing. No leaks. I’m extremely satisfied with this filter and will purchase it again.” – Gail C. (See all reviews.)

Photo credit: Prateek S. & Gail C. (Berkey Shower Filter customers)

5. Hai

Climate neutral

Recycled materials

Woman owned

Best For | Sustainability & saving on water
Notable Specs | 2 “flow rate” choices, handheld feature, six colors, Bluetooth connection, customizable LED lights, different water pressure & sprays, DIY installation
Price | $199

It’s about time that smart technology reached our bathrooms, thanks to Hai. While not a filtered showerhead, the Hai Smart Showerhead uses Bluetooth technology and a free app to make your shower as personalized (and sustainable) as possible. Its design is impressive — from the customizable LED lights that’ll let you know if you’ve exceeded your target water limit or if your water’s warm enough, to the various spray settings — and you can also track your environmental impact! Plus, you’ll offset the carbon footprint over its lifetime, the packaging is recyclable, and shipping is carbon-neutral, too. Choose from six fun colors, your preferred “flow rate” for water, and enjoy free shipping and free returns.

Hai Review | “I didn’t know I needed hai in my life until now. I already have anxiety about showering in places where I can’t use my beloved mist setting. If you want a showerhead that creates a spa-like experience, helps you save water, and looks super cute while doing it, then it’s time to get hai.” – Natasha Weiss, editor at The Good Trade [Read the full review.]

6. Hello Klean

Eco friendly packaging

FSC

Natural materials

Recycled materials

Subscriptions available

Woman owned

Best For | 2x the pressure
Notable Specs | Two models (shower head or filter), saves 25% of water, FSC certified & recycled packaging, filters last 90 days, DIY installation
Price | $85; discounted subscriptions with new filters available

If you’re one of the millions of people out there dealing with hard water, Hello Klean is here to help with its shower care essentials. Recommended and reviewed by the likes of CNN, Women’s Health, and Good Housekeeping, this handy brand filters your water in one of two ways — either via a shower filter or a purifying shower head. (Then, if you’re inclined, you can also stock up on some of its clarifying and nourishing hair care products as a one-stop shop.) The Purifying Shower Head leverages a two-step filtration process while boosting your water pressure along the way — the filter comprises the standard KDF-55, amino acid, and an activated carbon fiber. Then, when you’re done, you can compost or recycle all the materials from the cartridge to the carton. Say goodbye to dry skin and crisp hair once and for all.

Hello Klean Review | “Truly great products and they do help you with hard water issues. Just after the first use, I could feel and see the difference. I recommend them if you have such issues.” – Ana L. (See all reviews.)

7. sproos!

Eco friendly packaging

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Best For | Colorful shower heads
Notable Specs | 3 shower sprays, pause button, WaterSense & CalGreen compliant flow rate, extra-long shower hose, 50% recycled material
Price | $69

Upgrade your shower routine with this chic hand shower from sproos! With 3 spray modes — Monsoon, Jet, and Cloudburst — and a pause button to save water (perfect for pets or plants), this handy shower head is ready to get you super clean, super quick. sproos!’ 1.8-gpm flow rate meets WaterSense and CalGreen standards, so you’re saving water without sacrificing pressure, and the extra-long 70-inch hose makes cleaning a breeze. We also love the matte finish that’s free from any toxic chrome plating. Though this hand shower head is not a water filter yet (check out their filtered hand shower pre-order!), we’ve added it to our list as an honorable mention for its groovy colorways!

Customer Review | “I love this shower head! The pop of color is everything and the settings are great. The installation took me under 5 minutes and the instructions were simple and straightforward.” – Danielle S. (Read all reviews.)

Featured image is from Hello Klean

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We love using natural products, especially in the bedroom. These are our top picks for safe sex toys that are cute, discreet, and have other perks, too.

Even a decade ago, owning a pleasure device of any kind felt slightly shameful. It was a secret to be hidden away in our most private drawers, furtively used on lonely nights. This feeling was, in part, due to how sex toys were manufactured to be blatantly realistic and obnoxiously large. Let’s just say, before the ’90s, vibrators were not discreet — or cute.

As we continue to shift our cultural narratives surrounding sexuality, we’re seeing a ripple effect throughout the industries catering to our sexual desires. The sex toy industry has been expanding its approach to pleasure for people with vulvas, well beyond the classic dildo or vibrator model (though these are classic for a reason!). There have also been notable innovations for transgender and non-binary pleasure as well.

Why shop sex toys for women, especially those made by women?

We love the newer emphasis on wellness-based, versatile models by women designers who are modernizing the industry. They’re helping us to explore our sexuality and desires while also caring for our bodies. No room for shame in this new game, where education reigns and customization is endless. After all, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to sexual pleasure. Below are some of the best sex toys for women — started mainly by women founders who are leading the industry into a new frontier of empowerment and liberation.

Our criteria:

Our editors have personally used and reviewed nontoxic and sustainable products for a decade. Yes, that includes lube and even toys. These are our top picks for natural lubes that are made of organic materials, safe to use, and have other benefits too. We regularly update this list with new finds that meet the below criteria.

• NATURAL & ORGANIC | These toys are made with all-natural and skin-safe materials.
• DISCREETNESS | Each of these brands creates toys that are fun, cute, and discreet enough that you don’t have to feel embarrassed keeping them in (or on!) your nightstand.
• VERSATILE | Whether you’re looking for a solo vibrator or a toy to use with a partner, these brands are versatile and can be used in many ways!

If you’re looking for other sexual wellness products, check out our guide to vegan condoms and our favorite nontoxic lube brands!

Best Overall | Most Affordable | Most Luxurious | Best Introductory Toy

1. Smile Makers

Biodegradable

Budget friendly

Cruelty free

FDA approved

Vegan

Best For | Ergonomic sex toys
Product Range | Vibrators, lubricants, wipes, oils, candles, condoms, sex education guides
Price Range | $45 – $160

Smile Makers is on a mission to bring sex (and vulvas!) out into the open. For nearly a decade, the team has tirelessly worked to create sensual products for vulva owners, thinking through female anatomy, ergonomic design, and the best in quality materials. (Along the way, Smile Makers also hosts pleasure-positive sex workshops and sex education programs — brava!) We love the team’s quiz to help you find your next sex toy, its playful language and product names, and largely affordable pricing.

Customer Review | “It’s wonderful! Very easy to clean and store. Has a great battery life. Would definitely recommend” – Victoria S. (Read all reviews.)

2. LELO

Gender inclusive

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Best For | Luxury sex toys
Product Range | Sex toys for women, men & couples, LGBTQ+ sex toys, lubricants, accessories, condoms
Price Range | $40 – $500

Use the code GOOD15 for an extra 15% off on all Lelo products

LELO prides itself on crafting luxurious sex toys designed to make pleasure a meaningful part of self-care. No matter your gender, orientation, race, or age, there’s a toy created to suit your needs. The brand is renowned for its design, innovation, and technology, with every product meeting the ISO 3533 international standard, ensuring safety for intimate use. Over the years, LELO has earned numerous accolades, including Red Dot Awards for “Product Design” and “Sex Toy of the Year.” While many of LELO’s products are considered an investment, they come with features that offer true value: Certified body-safe construction, long-lasting rechargeable batteries, app integration, safety assurances, and the peace of mind of a one-year warranty plus a ten-year quality guarantee. In other words: These toys are built to last, designed to delight, and meant to make pleasure part of your everyday wellbeing.

Customer Review | “I love the texture of this, and it is made is such way that it is evidently well thought for a woman who wants to find pleasure in her own way.” – Daphni (Read all reviews.)

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3. Dame

Budget friendly

Doctor approved

Woman owned

Best For | Doctor-approved sexual wellness products
Product Range | Personal & couples vibrators, lubricants, wipes, supplements, candles, cleaners, STI-testing kits, games
Price Range | $10 – $282

This fun sex toy brand was started by two female founders: One is a credentialed sexologist and the other is an established engineer. Alongside lubes and serums, Dame’s sex toys are sleek, sexy, and even a bit futuristic. The designs are truly a glimpse at how sex toys can be revolutionized, and they challenge our ideas on what these products should look like — take the bestselling Aer suction toy, for example. The founders continue to develop new and innovative products for all — while also closing the pleasure gap. Not sure where to start? Take the brand’s quiz to find the right toy for you!

Customer Review | “Best toy out here! I literally use nothing else and am very loyal to this brand. This company makes their products so well we even purchased the pillow! Very satisfied with everything and not to mention the customer service is outstanding!” – SK (Read all reviews.)

4. Maude

Budget friendly

Cruelty free

Eco friendly packaging

Recycled materials

Vegan

Woman owned

Best For | Holistic sexual wellness products 
Product Range | Vibrators, lubricants, condoms, supplements, body care products, candles
Price Range | $18 – $120

We appreciate the minimalist approach to this inclusive, affordable, and beautifully designed bedroom essentials brand, Maude. Its goal is to help modernize the pleasure industry by selling body-safe products that not only look cute on your nightstand but are also functional — like the “burn” candle that doubles as a massage oil or the vibrator that looks like a trendy art piece. Plus, you can grab a travel kit or bundle for double the pleasure and double the fun.

Customer Review | “I didn’t expect to love this as much as I do. I bought this to have as a back up option and to take traveling because of its nice small size. I was always a believer that the suction vibrators worked the fastest but this proved me wrong… the first time I used it I was honestly a bit shocked! Feel incredible, looks sleek and modern, holds a long charge, and is quiet and easy to travel with. This is also a great vibrator for use during sex as it’s slim and doesn’t get in the way. 10/10!” – Lindsey (Read all reviews.)

5. Tabu

American made

Doctor approved

Science backed

Small business

Vegan

Woman owned

Best For | Intimacy essentials for changing bodies
Product Range | Vibrators, lubricants, pillows, body & skincare products 
Price Range | $37 – $295

Tabu is not buying the idea that sexual health and pleasure is only for the young. Dedicated to sexual education and wellness at any age, their toys, lubes, and tools are made by a dedicated panel of medical experts, pelvic floor therapists, and gynecologists. Long term vaginal health benefits from attention and care and their thoughtfully designed vulva stimulator and heating wand offer gentle vibrations that stimulate and care for the soft tissues of the vulva and vagina through reproductive years and beyond.

Customer Review | “I’ve never felt better about my body. This has been an investment in my health.” – Bri (Read all reviews.)

6. Ohnut

Budget friendly

Doctor approved

Woman owned

Best For | Pain & sensitivity management 
Product Range | Intimacy support products, lubricants, cleansers
Price | $75

This fascinating toy is a revolutionary device that offers relief to those who find penetrative sex uncomfortable. The brand was founded by a woman who experienced painful sex herself and went on a journey to alleviate the discomfort. During her research, she found that one in every 10 women experiences pain during sex. This inspired her to create the Ohnut ring, which customizes penetration depth. The product is BPA-, phthalate-, and latex-free, and made from FDA-approved body-safe material. Ohnut also offers a lube, sensory brush, and a “getting-to-know-you” mirror for even more intimate moments.

Customer Review | “I love recommending this to my clients who experience penetrative pain. The depth-limiting rings are brilliant not only for modifying penetration, but also for alleviating the anxiety and fear that can be present when pain is involved.” – Laura L. (Read all reviews.)

7. Je Joue

Budget friendly

Small business

Vegan

Best For | Low frequency vibrations
Product Range | Personal/couples vibrators & toys, lingerie, lube, cleansers, candles, games
Price Range | $8 – $139

With an emphasis on being sex-positive, Je Joue sells toys (think beads, rings, and handcuffs) as well as vibrators that are “sophisticated and elegantly naughty.” The designers worked with gynecologists and midwives to help make sure its vibrators are beautiful and effective. The unique motors operate at an ultra-low frequency allowing the vibrations to travel more deeply through the body and access more internal pleasure points. So, simply put, they do the job right!

Customer Review | “Really good vibrator. Quality is good and it is very discreet. Easy to use and travel with!” – Allison B. (Read all reviews.)

8. Crave

BIPOC Owned

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Discreet vibrators
Product Range | Pleasure jewelry 
Price Range | $15 – $179

Crave was founded by a female industrial designer who hoped to create sophisticated, appealing products in order to change the narrative around women’s pleasure. In fact, some are so elegant that it’s okay to have them in plain sight. We love the portability and sleekness of these devices, making them feel less like a secret to be hidden away. The “Vesper,” for instance, doubles as a necklace and a vibrator, and they also make a leather pair of handcuffs that double as a bold bracelet. From the boardroom to the bedroom, come as you are!

Customer Review | “This little jewel it’s absolutely perfect as a spicy toy and an elegant plus to some outfits…absolutely in love” – Andrea (Read all reviews.)

9. Unbound

Budget friendly

Gender inclusive

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Gender inclusive sex toys
Product Range | Personal/couples vibrators & sex toys, lubricants, condoms, 
Price Range | $18 – $138

This brand, Unbound, is fully women-led and run with an emphasis on creating a feminist space to explore and experience women’s sexuality. The products are safe, playful, and inclusive, and we love that you can filter by categories like “beginner,” “couple,” or “multispeed.” They also have a number of sensation toys and nipple or clit clamps if you want to explore pain safely. Our favorite unique design is the “Puff,” which uses a rhythmic sucking sensation and intensity for clitoral pleasure. The Puff is rechargeable, waterproof, and sent in discreet packaging. It’s no surprise that Unbound sex toys have thousands of five-star reviews.

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Doctor approved

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Smart vibrator 
Product Range | Vibrator, CBD intimacy products
Price | $229

Liz Klinger, co-founder of Lioness with Anna Lee, saw a need for better sex toys after previously selling intimacy products at home parties. Enter the Lioness 2.0: A smart vibrator (yes, you read that right) built by and for women. Its award-winning technology uses built-in sensors and a mobile app to see your pleasure in real time — and then it’ll adapt to make your orgasms even more satisfying (with over 100 different intensities). It’s an absolute game-changer — and the last vibrator you’ll ever need.

Customer Review | “I’ve been raving about my Lioness to anyone who will listen – which is interesting because I previously would have usually been pretty private about this kind of topic! I guess the experience has been so good I have felt compelled to share the magic. An incredible vibrator that all of us deserve. I feel lucky to have discovered the Lioness, and in turn discover more about myself. Thank you!” – Claire (Read all reviews.)

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To this day, I am enchanted by this celebration of nothing — a party held for no specific reason other than to enjoy community. Dinner parties are the perfect way to romanticize life and beautify the mundane. Many people regularly spend time with friends in their homes, hosting casual pizza parties or watching sports games. But a dinner party creates a unique space where there are few distractions. The sole focus is sparking connection and enjoying the simple pleasures of home-cooked food and intentional conversation. Preparation for such a gathering certainly requires more energy, but it’s a labor of love.

“To this day, I am enchanted by this celebration of nothing.”

As I’ve settled into life as a full-fledged adult, I wanted to capture that magic and host a tasteful dinner party for my friends. The problem is, as an unmarried woman, I don’t have fancy wedding china. And as a person in her mid-20s living in Los Angeles, my apartment is tiny. There’s also the challenge of managing costs. Stacked together, the prospect of hosting can seem like a formidable challenge. 

However, if you can relate to any of these roadblocks, here’s my case for why they shouldn’t get in your way:

1. Reduce costs with a seasonal, plant-based menu.

A few months ago, my roommate and I threw a “Summer Salads” dinner party inspired entirely by one salad we had been making all season: Steamed asparagus and sweet corn with mozzarella and marinated artichokes. Not only was it fun to honor the summer season with our friends, but it also reduced the cost of our dinner party and supported our local producers. 

You too can posture your dinner party as a seasonal, plant-based celebration. If you fill your cart with fruits and veggies rather than meat, you’ll find your overall bill is much less. The week or two before your dinner, visit your local farmers market to peruse what’s in season and get inspired. This online seasonal food guide is another great resource to show what produce is in season in your specific state. 

As we move into winter, my roommate and I are already scheming up our next seasonal gathering. We are thinking a holiday tea party — with soul-warming eats like cinnamon apple cake, beet and goat cheese salad, and spiced hot tea on the menu. If you are also contemplating a winter dinner party, gathering around some veggie chili or butternut squash soup as the main course would be cost-effective, easy to prepare, and cozy.

Another top tip? When creating your menu, it’s a good idea to include as many make-ahead dishes as possible. For example, my go-to dinner party dessert is chocolate mousse topped with raspberries and a Trader Joe’s cocoa baton wafer cookie because you can easily prepare it the night before and refrigerate.

2. Create space in your home.

For our Summer Salads party, we made space in our little apartment by borrowing a long folding table and covering it with a pretty tablecloth. We pushed our couch and small dining table to the sides of the room. We gathered whatever stools, benches, and chairs we could find to accommodate our guests at the table — even asking to borrow two patio chairs from our neighbors downstairs. 

If you face the same struggle for space in your dining area, remember that there’s no need for everything to be perfect. Call to mind your intentions behind hosting the event; the point is to create a space that is celebratory and fun, not to shoot the next cover of Architectural Digest. If there aren’t any spare folding tables to be found, consider using a picnic bench in a local park. Or you could even use your coffee table as a low dinner table and seat your guests on cushions.

3. Get festive with your table settings.

Sticking to a summer theme, our July dinner party utilized green and pink as the main color scheme. For winter, we’ll use the same green-tinged glasses and lean into a more Christmas-y palette by adding evergreen sprigs and tinsel.

When you’re setting your table, there’s no need to have a fully matching set of fancy tableware. Use what you have, borrow from friends, or if you’re in the market for some new pieces, visit a thrift shop. Utilize a consistent color scheme (perhaps a seasonal one!) to create a charming hodgepodge of glassware or plates. And be sure to keep a lookout for antique candlesticks. There’s nothing like the moody flickering of taper candles to elevate the vibe. 

Flowers are another essential to creating a dinner party-worthy setup, and you can go as big or small as you wish. My favorite is baby’s breath, which typically costs just a few dollars per bouquet. You can use a vase if you have a nice one, but I also love the look of spreading the flowers along the table in old wine bottles and mason jars.

4. Start with the ice-breakers.

Once you’ve prepared the food and the table, all that’s left is to get the party going! As our guests arrived, my roommate and I offered each friend a glass of sparkling rosé. You could get extra fancy and have a seasonal drink at the ready for a cocktail hour — something like a winter white cosmopolitan that you can whip up in a large batch beforehand and easily pour for each individual as they arrive. We also had a side table spread with bruschetta and grapes to graze on while everyone trickled in. To break the ice, try conversation cards or a silly prompt for everyone to answer. 

5. Invite your guests to help as they can.

Finally, a dinner party may be a labor of love, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you need to carry the entire load yourself. For Summer Salads, we asked our guests to contribute $10 and/or bring a bottle of summer-y wine if they were able to attend the dinner. It was fun to see the wine that our friends selected to bring. Guests could also help in non-monetary ways, such as washing dishes, creating the playlist, or bringing the icebreaker games.

“Guests could also help in non-monetary ways, such as washing dishes, creating the playlist, or bringing the icebreaker games.”

When my roommate and I hosted our dinner party, we spent the day leading up to it visiting a farmers market and a total of four different grocery stores to find everything we wanted. We spent hours cooking, rearranging our furniture to create space, and cleaning. But when our friends arrived and the party began, time bent and stretched. The golden hour sun streamed in on the table. The wine quickly slipped away. We went around the table sharing the story of our very first kiss, amid much laughter. After our friends left late, my roommate and I couldn’t stop talking about that night, and we immediately started to plan the next one. 

There truly is a bit of magic to a thoughtful dinner party, and hosting one is not as intimidating as you may think. You’ll be able to flex your creativity, be mindful about the season you are in (literally and perhaps metaphorically!), and show appreciation to the loved ones in your life. And the best part is there is not one right way to do it. Have fun bringing your vision to life and creating a magical dinner party night of your own.

Mary Cate Long is a writer with a focus on travel, food, and lifestyle. She was born and raised in Texas, received her journalism degree from Pepperdine University, and has lived abroad in both London and Australia. In between new adventures, she now calls Santa Monica homebase, where she enjoys reading novels on the beach and doing yoga in the park. You can follow along on Instagram, and see her published work here.

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